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Dr. Cloud says when you're really hungry, even kale looks good. Harvard spent 75 years studying what determines how well people do in life -- and the answer was their relationships. So here's the question: what unmet hunger in your life has caused you to grab at relational kale -- someone who looked nourishing because you were starving, not because they actually were?

Jesus had the crowds, the seventy-two, the twelve, and the three -- concentric circles of closeness, each with a different purpose. If you mapped your relationships the same way, who's in your inner three right now? Did you choose them intentionally, or did they just drift there because they were nearby?

A 68-year-old woman stood up in a hospital group and said, "From this day forward, I will not allow my mother to control my life." Dr. Cloud says we all have relational magnets -- patterns that pull us toward certain kinds of people. What pattern has controlled your people picker for years, and what would your version of her declaration sound like?